Two people have different personalities, experiences and mentalities. So it’s only natural that at some stage there would be differences. It is believed that some relationships are healthy even when they are going well.
The most articulate person is not able to communicate their thoughts without the ability to listen. All people have a tendency when they feel something is wrong to justify themselves or to believe that they were right. It is important to be attentive to both your partner and counsellor when you are in a session. If you listen attentively and keep your mouth closed, it is easy to solve a conflict. When you first listen before reacting, your understanding of the situation will improve.
In couples counselling, you and your partner work together to make the relationship better. You need to learn to control your feelings because even though emotions are fleeting they can damage a relationship. Controlling your emotions is important for couples who have a tendency to release their emotions too quickly. Uncontrolled emotions make situations more difficult than they are better.
Be sure to convey your views in a way that is not aggressive. Assume that there will be a disagreement between both parties. An open line of communication is good. Conflict resolution is the goal of a counselor in a therapy session. However, it can only be achieved if all parties involved are listening. In order to resolve conflicts, counselors need both parties to listen and express their feelings. The couples are not communicating properly in most relationships. Often times, therapists will discover couples don’t communicate well with their partners. This is what makes their relationships fail.
It is important to be open-minded and change your perspective. Do not complain during couples therapy. Relax and think about yourself as if you were another person. Inquire about your characteristics, and ask yourself if they are something you want to share with someone. To improve your relationship, you must learn to accept and change your own faults. Be aware that the individual must gain from this kind of therapy.